Did that get your attention? Good. Now, let me give you some history first.
At the end of August I was about to head back down to school for the semester and I needed a haircut. I’ve been dying and highlighting my hair for years and it was destroyed. It was light brown, then nearly black, then purple low-lights, then hot pink highlights, then blonde highlights, back to brown, then to red… you get the point. It was bad. Dead. Fried. Gross. Unmanageable. An honest to God HOT MESS. One of my close friends is a hair stylist/cosmetologist and cut it for me. Here’s the best picture I could find to show how long it was before I cut it. (this was during the Paris trip & now that I’m looking at this… WHY, OH WHY did I cut it!?)
Rachel (my personal hair stylist as I like to call her) cut it into this short blonde bob.
I loved it! It was so cute, but… still not what I wanted. So, she chopped it all. Well, almost all of it.
And, honestly, it’s one of the most freeing, terrifying, confidence boosting thing I’ve ever done. I love it. It has seriously tested my self-confidence, though. Because sometimes I do really feel as if I look like a boy. And that’s not the look I was going for. But, It’s finally growing out and I’ve been able to figure out different ways to wear it so it’s not in my eyes.
I had a little photo shoot this past weekend with Ali. Tried to get shots of my scarves but I just ended up making weird faces instead.
So, back to my story… The other night when I went out with a couple friends (a rare moment for me), a guy who had been talking to me for a couple minutes suddenly asks me “So, when were you planning on telling me you’re a lesbian?” …What? Then I realized a few things 1) he has NO filter, 2) apparently you must be a lesbian if you have a pixie haircut, and 3) if you do happen to be a lesbian, then you should make sure to start every conversation with “Hi, I’m Erika and I’m a lesbian”. WHY?! I don’t get it. As these thoughts are running through my head I realized I hadn’t responded to him yet. “So, because of my haircut, you assume I’m a lesbian?” And with a dumbfounded look on his face, he replies “Well, yeah.”
This crap blows my mind. A girl can’t have a short hair cut these days without being labeled something? Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against anyone who is attracted to the same sex. Go for it. Love who you love. I do not care… why? cause it’s NONE of my business. Just like whoever I’m attracted to isn’t anyone’s business. I guess I could have assumed someone would ask me, or assume, if they didn’t know me before I cut it off. I guess. But why? I mean, we see celebrities and other public figures getting those little pixie haircuts but nobody thinks “Oh hey, I guess she is a lesbian.” So why is it different for us not-so-famous?
I ramble enough as it is so I’m gonna just stop this little rant right now.
I didn’t cut my hair for the style. I just wanted healthy hair again. This just happened to be the best way to do it. Now if it could just grow a little faster, that would be awesome. I miss my long locks.
Enjoy your Sunday.